written and submitted by Maxibadone, a girlfriend I’ve made while blogging online. She writes some very entertaining but also insightful blog posts and has kindly agreed to share some of her stuff with us. But be forewarned and prepared, she has one of those close to the bone and sometimes outright raw writing styles. I enjoy reading her blog and hope you do as well. Check out her other entry “Vaginas Demonicus” in the “Off the Cuff” section. Maxi lives in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada.
Is there such a thing? In this day and age? But I’ve been so faithful to my husband, what ever will I do now?
Are you kidding?
Do it I say! And do it smartly! It’s someone new. It’s exciting. It’s, Oh My God, they actually GROW that big!!!
There is no such thing as not having sex after a divorce. Of course you can have it. You did while you were married, did you not? So what makes it wrong to have it after the ring comes off? Absolutely nothing stands in your way. And the good news is, you don’t have to sneak around behind your parents’ back to do it!
Dating has changed since we were teens for sure. We have technology now to actually make it easier to pick and choose who we want, to join dating sites telling the world what we are looking for in a partner, or date mate. There’s speed dating, and there’s also the bar scene. Well, let’s save the bar scene for the younger generation shall we. So why not use the tools out there to get what we want that much faster. Or better yet, more of what we want when we’re in a particular mood?
There is nothing wrong with dating several men at a time. There are no rules of condemnation that say you can’t. Well, not unless you consider the nosy gossip down the street who’s seen two different guys come up to your place in one week no less! Skip her…she needs something to do, so give her some ammunition to gossip to the other prudes about. It might liven her up a bit and I’m sure the ladies on your street will be looking at you with envy the next time a hot stud pulls up to your driveway, thinking the whole time..I wish that was me!
But what does it matter what they think? They aren’t the ones taking you out to dinner at the new restaurant, buying you flowers, or giving you mind blowing orgasms that you never thought were obtainable in your lifetime, let alone twice in one night. You are single! You are allowed to date, and date as much as you want! There are no rules to the number of men you date either I might add. I’ve looked, and can’t find them anywhere.
This is your time to come out of your prudish shell and enjoy your singlehood to the fullest, much as you did when you were a teen before you settled down with your soon to be ex. Besides, you can only bake so much for those endless bake sales before you start tossing the batter all over the room in an endless fit of lonely raging hormonal attacks! Chocolate does wonders, but doesn’t compare to sex ladies! I kid you not!
Flower power didn’t die in the 60′s and why did all these woman work so hard for a sexual revolution anyways if you’re just going to sit home with a good book night after night alone? You certainly disappointed them and yourselves if you think you can’t be sexual after a divorce….AND over 40 dammit! You still have the parts, so USE them!
Who’s idea was it anyways to say that you HAVE to abstain from having fun? I’d like to beat them to a pulp! But not before I make weekly plans with Michael, John and oh, there’s that hottie Carl that I’ve been dying to hook up with and shag for weeks now. THOSE people WILL have to wait while I go have me some fun!
So come ladies, it’s your time to enjoy your sexuality to it’s fullest! Do you think your ex isn’t doing the same thing? He may have already been practicing before the divorce, so why not. We only live once, so get off your butts and call that hottie you’ve been eying at the grocery store. The worst thing he can say is I’m married.
But always play safe!! Condoms are a girls best friend in the 21st century, diamonds are a bonus!
Babeland
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I just finished reading “Finding My Way” It was awesome! I related all too well, being devorced myself after 20 yrs. However, I can assure you that what doesn’t destroy us, will only make us stronger…we have the ex’s to thank. (I suppose they were good for something afterall) I’ve been on this journey alone going on 5 yrs. and I’m telling you, I have cried, screamed, and kicked along the way and I’m still here doing me. I’m a lot more wiser, and living a stress-free life and I’m asolutely loving it. Stay strong and be encouraged.