I moved out of my home to get away from a very difficult marriage. Since the day I moved out he:
- Closed all our bank accounts and put all the money in accounts in his name and when I protested he told me it was just “good business”
- Closed down all the credit cards (including those that were mine before I married him) leaving me with no means of even buying food if I needed it
- Hijacked all our stock accounts and used up the money to pay bills while he didn’t work
- Put me in the hospital four times by stressing me out to the point that my heart actually went out of rhythm which created a $5000 bill that we can’t pay.
- Hijacked two of our properties by listing them against my will
- Has taken four vacations in the two years since I left, two to Mexico for two weeks each, a week long cruise to Alaska and he just returned from a two week vacation in….get this…New Zealand! I’ve heard it said by someone close to him that “he really needed the time away….”
- He’s refused to allow me the things in the house that are supposed to be mine
- He’s screwed around with my spousal support so out of several thousands of dollars in net income he sent me a check for a little over two hundred dollars (which he paid me just before flying out to…New Zealand!).
I could go on and on and on but you get the drift. And why has he done all this? Because I had the audacity to leave him.
We cannot always anticipate what the effects of divorce may be or the end result of our actions may be but one thing I do know; when you make that kind of decision, make sure you are ready to pay all the consequences of it. Yes, freedom is not free but sometimes it is worth whatever price you have to pay to get it.
Babeland
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And don’t I know that because I’m also living in that same hell…..why do men think they have the right to punish us when the marriage collapses? It’s as though they bear no responsibility for the breakdown therefore finding solace and justification in abusing their power over us as their way of acting out, getting even, pacifying their own hurt and loss of us – as though that’s gonna score them any points! Instead their action further validate our the reasons for leaving them!
Thank you Bess for your comment. I’m sure we are not the only two out there that can relate to this.